Recently I’ve been reading a book on relationships. Specifically relationships between men and women. I’ve always heard (and believe it to be true) that men and women think very differently, and I want to be the best I can be in my relationship so thought this book might give me some insight.
As I read along, the book makes valid points, many I haven’t considered. Honestly, my focus has been on being a good sister / aunt / daughter for a long time, so considering how to be a good girlfriend or sweetheart is a whole different ball park. I definitely want to be an encouragement and a blessing. I want to bring my best to this relationship also.
Throughout this book there is an underlying theme and it is to look past yourself. Remarkably enough, and yet not surprisingly, it would seem in my efforts to bring my best to this relationship, God is showing me how to improve on all my relationships.
Give Grace Generously
Though we’ve discussed grace before, let’s consider it again. I feel like it is a muscle that one must keep exercising.
What is grace? You might define it as kind understanding. You extend grace when another struggles or doesn’t measure up quite like they typically do. We all stumble and struggle. Grace is when we don’t keep track and point out another’s failures.
Grace is also important to show to ourselves. Rather than becoming self absorbed about our failures and shortcomings, we must resolve to do better next time and move on. God gives us more than enough grace, we must show our gratitude to Him by accepting it!
And this is especially true in relationships, grace is essential! Don’t be petty or fussy. Be gracious and thoughtful. This will set a lovely precedent in the beginning and, ideally, make it all the easier to continue this kindness as the relationship progresses.
Speak Kindly and Encouragingly
Kindness and encouragement help us flourish! We simply can’t get enough! I believe it is just another form of love and it is essential to show it to each other even when, and perhaps especially when, we can hear a whisper of a complaint sneaking up. Swallow it and find something kind to say.
It is so important to practice this in every area of our life. In our prayers, with our family, and even at work. Definitely be honest and don’t make something up, but rather be observant and creative! There is a certain art to appreciation and it is an excellent habit to form and practice!
Look Past Yourself
You will find so much more joy and fulfillment in your life if you will look past yourself. It really is that plain and simple. Seek God, consider others, and the rest will follow!
It is said that writing thank you notes is one of the best ways to overcome depression. In much the same way, I believe going out of your way to help another is how to experience joy. Now you must serve with a sincere desire to be a blessing rather than serving with the expectation of your reward. Sincerity is key!
In your relationships you must constantly look past yourself. Yes, you may have reason to be annoyed, but get over it, don’t keep track. True, others can be unthoughtful, but again, look past how the situation makes you feel. Consider that perhaps the other person was distracted or not feeling well. Give them grace, be kind, and look past yourself.
In All Relationships
In my reading, I’ve found that all these thoughts work well for any relationship! Basically it seems to boil down to being your best and thinking well of others.
And let me remind you of a little something extra – you can’t out give God! When you give your best, you won’t be able to escape the blessings that He will send your way! Also, if you will pursue Him with your whole heart, you can’t mess up His plans for you. Get out of your own way, look past yourself, and give Him your best in every area of your life. He cares and He will direct your steps!
I hope this has encouraged you like it has encouraged me! I love that in the mystery of learning how to navigate a new relationship God is inspiring me how to do even better in the relationships I already have!
Until Next Time!
Hope.
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